Sitting here thinking about my date with Colleen tomorrow and a few questions have come to mind. So maybe you my loyal fans have some answers. We laughed our asses off over Starbucks last week. However she wasn't physical. So a couple of questions since this is different territory than I am use to.
1) Shake or kiss on the picking her up?
2) What are the rules on being physical (hand holding, etc.) on a second date when there was none on the first?
Thanks in advance.
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now I can only speak for myself. But kissing her on the cheek is great and hand holding, I know I love. Can only speak for myself.
I liked what am4039 said. When you stated that she wasn't physical I thought of myself. I am not physical because I am waiting for the guy to make the first move. Must be my up bringing of Irish Catholic. Feel its not my place to do so, especially if I do not know you well. When I do know you well enough I will be come more physical. Hey, that song just popped in my head. Olivia Newton-John's Let's Get Physical, Physical ..LOL Was babysitting a little boy back then who had to listen to that song over and over again every day! Watch for body signals..hold her hand..see if she is relaxed or tense..after the date, try for a kiss. Good Luck on your second date. I wish you the best date ever.
Nancie - Colorado
Shake upon greeting her, and then as the night progresses just read her body language. As you are walking, grab her hand and hold it. If she doesn't want to she will find a way to pull it away, and not put it back. You just have to watch her body language.. it will speak volumes!
Good luck, Mike!
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Jackie
Hello Mike.....
Since I haven't started dating yet I do have some opinions on dating being that I woman.... If I guy were to come and pick me up I think its okay to give a little hug and a kiss on the cheek with the delivery of a flower or two.
On a second date I think hand holding is nice it just depends on how well you get to know each other. I wouldn't mind a guy holding my hand on the second date but not all women are the same.
I also believe that a good night kiss is nice on a second date. A second date kiss shouldn't last for more than 3 seconds depending how well the evening went. Being that I am NOT dating yet you might want to go with a second opinion. I just thought I would share my opinions. I really hope that your date with Colleen goes well. Have a good one. Your a great guy so I'm sure it will be a really nice evening for the both of you. Have a good one.
I think it depends on how well you have gotten to know each other prior to dating via email, phone etc. Where you friends for a long time first? All those things can make a difference with this. I think hand shake first for someone you are just meeting. Now that hand shake does make a difference. A lot can be said in a handshake! Sorry don't mean to worry you or analyze too much but there is that half hand or limp one, a firm long lasting one that you don't want to give their hand back ETC! ;-)
Now if she agrees to a 2nd date then she has to like you somewhat. I would wait for hand holding/kissing etc on the 2nd date until it is toward the end and you can see how that date went. Usually she will tell you. She'll be smiling, looking in your eyes, laughing etc. She probably will walk or be by you closer. You'll be able to tell how you feel too. You don't want to jump the gun and same something with any of this and then regret it later. And the other issue is whether you ask her if you can kiss her. I still love when a man does that. It shows you really do respect her. The "I'd really like to kiss you" can just melt a woman if she feels the same way. Of course all this gets thrown out the door depending on how many drinks you have had! HA! Good Luck!
Mike, if there's a second date then there is obviously some chemistry there or you wouldn't bother. When picking her up go to take her hand, lean in and give her a light kiss on the cheek. It says just enough without overduing it that early on. When it comes to hand holding you guys just have to get your courage up and go for it, most women enjoy holding hands, most women love affection, especially if we really like you. We aren't that hard to read, if she seems like she's really enjoying herself go for it, you can usually tell if someone is being cold. Go for the hand holding, and if there's a goodnight kiss keep it short and leave her wanting another one : ) Good luck!! Let us know how it goes!!!
~ Jenny
AH, Mike:) Okay, you went by her cues, which is important. I say start the second date out with a nice but quick hug -- gets that physical barrier broken but not too obtrusively. Maybe you can both relax some after that. As you're walking about, casually brushing hands and seeing how she reacts could be nice, too:) Yes, assuming this second date goes as wonderfully connectively as the first, do end it with a kiss! I like the idea of asking her first, too, but if she's been giving you cues all along, it's not necessary to ask her, even if it is rather fun, even if it is already the two of you staring in each others eyes, to be asked. She may expect you to make the first moves, and yet staying respecting her, are both good. I think it'll work out fine! -- Robin
Oh, handshaking to me on a second date would just seem awkward, as if you wanted to keep it as professional or platonic friendship, but, that's me. Seems others like the handshake idea. -- Robin
I came back because I wanted to see if there is any differences in the advice everyone gave. I guess women are complicated lol
And I have to laugh at the "CATHOLIC GIRL" comments, Im Catholic and went to Catholic school growing up, we are the wild ones, so dont let that fool you lol : )
~ Jenny
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