Well the date is over and all I can say is the I have no fucking clue. LOL. So I guess that can't be a good sign. I've been thinking it over for the past 30 minutes. We again laughed hysterical with our conversation. Dinner and the movie were great. I touched Colleen through out the night during laughter or consolment. She never touched back, nor did she pull away when I touched her. Her body language went from open to close the whole night. I was going to hold her hand after the movie, but she put her sweater in that hand. When we got back to her place she wanted to talk a little more in the car. She had hinted last night that she may need a date for a wedding Saturday, but tonight she said since she didn't know anyone she would just go with her room mates. I walked to her door. She gave me a quick hug and kiss on the cheek. Then told me to have a great day tomorrow. I said we should do it again, but it wasn't answered. So we said we would talk tomorrow.
Overall I say she wasn't interested. I never got a strong feeling besides the fun we had. On my own I know I was trying to read her to find out where she was that I didn't tell how great she looked or that her perfume smelled great. So I am sad tonight since I had a good time. The only bad thing for me was that I wasn't quite sure where Colleen stood. I know myself when I am unsure I react instead of act which is a defect of mine. However I never want to over step myself. So I am confused. Not quite sure how to proceed. Actually I do. I will tell her tomorrow how much I enjoyed myself and try to go out again. I leave it in her court to tell me she doesn't which will tell me where she is at also if she can tell me how she really feels.
Comments welcome.
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I hope it all works out, I know you like her. The only thing I can say if I like someone they know. But maybe she is a little shy or unsure. Good luck.
She had hinted last night that she may need a date for a wedding Saturday, but tonight she said since she didn't know anyone she would just go with her room mates.
Wondering if she was waiting for you to say..."Would you like me to be your escort for the wedding on Saturday?"
Hi Mike.....
You were the perfect gentleman with Colleen. You did all the right things and it sounds like you were the perfect date. I don't know about this Colleen she seems to be giving mixed signals. Give her a call and tell her what a nice time you had. If she doen't seem interested in another date let it at that. Maybe she had something on her mind I don't know. But I would have enjoyed going out with you had I been her. If she doesn't want to go out with you again its her loss not yours. Your a great guy and you deserve someone special. Perhaps Colleen isn't the one. Hang in there.....A wonderful guy such as yourself will find someone. She is crazy if she doesn't want to go out with you again.
I agree she mentioned the wedding for a reason...though it is sooo funny because I'm direct & when guys do that stuff to me I never catch on! Ugh!
If Colleen is a Catholic girl, she will not want you to think she is "fast" in any way. Opening the car door for her, walking on the outside as you both stroll down the street, asking permissiion for a kiss at the door on the third date (not first or second) are all things to do to ease her mind. If she is being treated as a lady, she will relax more. The fact that she stayed a little longer in the car with you instead of beating a path away from you is a good sign as well. Just casually call her up to see if she would like you to escort her to the wedding and go from there. Good Luck, Mike! ---angel
I'm not quite sure how to "read" her, either. I remember you saying she is a female version of you -- which to me could mean that she is not sure of herself in a relationship, either, cautious, maybe afraid, liking you and the time together enough to be "open" some of the time, and linger in the car. Interesting that she gave you the hug and a kiss, but to me that means she wanted to. Guess it's a one day at a time thing -- I like your plan of calling her, letting her know the good things, and just seeing. And, yeah, go ahead and mention the wedding, what the heck. -- Robin p.s. -- does she know you have this online, public journal?
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Maybe she's just phasing the relationship and wants it to go slow. A lot of women gets confused or nervous when the relationship is going faster than they want it to be. My advice: hands off for a while. I know my hubby did until I can't stand it anymore and I practically jumped him. LOL.
Maybe she is reading your body language and picking up something from you? Maybe she is as insecure about dating as you are, and when you didn't compliment or.. or tell her she smelled good.. maybe SHE though you weren't that interested. Or...maybe you are just over analyzing the whole thing (which I am so guilty of myself in regards to EVERYTHING). Give it a few more times, Mike. That was only your second date. You two are still getting to know one another. Sometimes it just takes....a little more time. Call her today, tell you enjoyed your time together, and see how she reacts.
Good luck! I know you really this girl, and I hope it works out for you!
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Jackie
She's a tough cookie to read lol.
Maybe she was just as nervous as you were or even more? Her wanting to talk more in the car before ending the date is a good sign. I just wish there had been the oppurtunity for more PDA, not a lot just a little, it does say a lot.
~ Jenny
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